Codependency

Codependency is using relationships as a way to validate yourself and or your worth. For example, "If this person is happy, then I am happy. If this person does not feel good, then I do not feel good." Codependency may take the form of people pleasing, difficulty with boundary setting, perfectionism, anxiety, and shame, as it can often stem from us not having the space to learn our needs and the safety to express them fully. I will help you begin prioritizing YOU without guilt or doubt.

Finding healthy relationships are a constant struggle if there’s any overlap of unhealthy childhood relationships or a pattern of choosing partners that don’t meet your needs. Helping you to find and identify red flags as well as create boundaries can be a great start to working on having your own identity within relationships.

Codependency may show up as people pleasing and denying one's own needs. I like the famous analogy of being on an airplane: to be in a relationship, we must tend to ourselves (put on our own gas masks before helping others). Life is about relationships and there is none more important than the relationship we have with ourselves. To treat codependency, I draw on the teachings of theorists such as John Bradshaw, Pia Mellody, and Melody Beattie.

Codependency as described by Pia Mellody, author of Facing Codependence, by symptoms of difficulty with self-esteem, boundaries, owning one's reality, acknowledging and meeting one's wants and needs, and expressing reality in moderation.

It's hard to fault someone for being compassionate, caring or kind. Too often, other prey or take advantage our kindness and giving spirit. Inadvertently, we give away our power and then find life sometimes hopeless. Learn how to regain your sense of self- respect, security and independence. I utilize CBT therapy to rewire our brain changing our thoughts. Changing our thoughts changes how we think and feel best altering our actions.

Codependency is often tied to the relationships that we have with addicts in our lives. Codependency is often defined as behaviors that enable behaviors we wish to see the end of but it often comes from a place of love, care and concern for others. The problem is that love, care and concern can result in giving too much to others. My goal in helping clients who struggle with codependency is to help them establish healthy boundaries so they can be supportive without overwhelming themselves.

Through a unique combination of mindset work, somatic practices, and relationship role work, I support my clients to develop healthy boundaries in relationships, access healing and practical strategies for increasing self-esteem and autonomy, and utilize simple tools to help them individuate from their families of origin and form their own identities while also being in relationship with others.

Perhaps you seek a “coming home” to yourself in a way that feels safe & meaningful. Perhaps you long to understand yourself in relationships or in the world around you where you consider your needs as much as those around you. Being a people pleaser can lead to compassion fatigue and burnout. I am honored to walk alongside you as we explore and process all that you hold within you. You are allowed to let go, breathe and prioritize your wellbeing.

It's hard to fault someone for being compassionate, caring or laughing. Too often, other spray or take advantage our kindness and giving spirit. Inadvertently would give away our power and then find life sometimes hopeless. Learn how to regain your sense of self respect, security and Independence. I utilize CBT therapy for when

I am trained in and utilize Pia Mellody's "Developmental Immaturity" model of codependency treatment, known as Post Induction Therapy. https://www.themeadows.com/workshops/post-induction-therapy-pit/

I have enjoyed being able to work with people on their issues of codependency towards healthy relationships. I will be an advocate for your self-discovery and independent growth, so that you can find yourself with greater insight into your patterns, rather than wait for someone else to tell you what is "wrong with you" and then "fix you." We will discuss independence of identity, worth, self-respect, and boundaries.

Jordan helps clients move from painful and draining codependence to a nourishing balance of inter- and independence. Knowledgeable in both 12-step and other recovery networks, Jordan works with her clients to find appropriate support and explore the root cause of codependency.

Codependence is the constant sacrifice of yourself in order to maintain a relationship. This can be very unsatisfying, enraging and leads to becoming smaller and hopeless in your relationships. It is scary to consider addressing the ways in which you might compromise yourself in relationships. Investigating this part of you does not mean you need to take action and end relationships. It means you get to feel like you have a choice in who you invite in and how you welcome them to your

Codependency means so much more than enabling with someone you love and today this idea has expanded to include adults who may or may not have lived with an addict. Codependency can more accurately be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own; accommodating to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs.

I have extensive experience treating codependency. A large amount of people find themselves struggling with feelings of responsibility for the needs, wants and feelings, of the people around them. These same people struggle with guilt when they see to their own needs, attempt to set boundaries, or try to put themselves first. I work to help a client see themselves as a priority and let go of carrying the world on their shoulders.

Codependency most often comes from growing up in a dysfunctional environment with underlying trauma at the core. The manifested symptoms are vast and can include; the belief that you need someone or something outside of yourself to feel whole, being so absorbed by other's problems (addiction, illness, etc) that you don't take care of yourself, having the need to control people and events because you feel out of control inside or being unable to set boundaries or say no.

Many people grow up in a chaotic home environment where healthy boundaries did not exist and where you were forced to be hypervigilant in order to keep the peace, maintain harmony, or appease a violent or unpredictable authority figure. As a result you struggle with maintaining your boundaries as an adult. Perhaps you constantly put others' needs before your own, are stretched too thin and become resentful, and you don't know where you end and others begin. I can help.

Do you find your mood dependent on those around you and no matter what you do you feel the need to keep them happy? You want to be able to have a say in the way you respond but your nervous system tells you that it's not safe and people could leave you or reject you. Clients come to me looking for a therapist to help them create a secure attachment, regulate their nervous system and become more comfortable with saying "no" when they want to.

If you find yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs above your own, feeling an overwhelming need for approval, or struggling to establish healthy boundaries, I'm here to help. Together, we'll navigate the intricacies of codependency, uncover its underlying roots, and develop strategies to foster independence, self-care, and healthier relationships. Your journey toward greater self-awareness and empowerment starts here.