Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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The Gottman Method is an evidence-based method for partnered therapy. It is evidence-based and can be used in various types of partnerships, as well as with individuals as many issues brought into therapy are about relationships with other people. Some goals of this method are to reduce conflict, improve communication, increase intimacy, respect, affection, empathy and compassion within relationships.

— Sami Morris, Therapist in Media, PA

Drawing from Dr. Gottman's research, I specialize in helping couples improve their relationships and increase satisfaction. Through assessment tools and evidence-based approaches, I identify relationship strengths and areas of growth, then guide couples in developing effective communication skills, conflict resolution strategies, and ways to enhance intimacy. I provide a safe environment for couples to foster their partnerships and promote long-term relationship success.

— Lauren Garza, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist in , PA
 

When working with couples, I utilize the Gottman Method to help strengthen their relationships. This approach is based on extensive research and focuses on improving communication, building trust, and enhancing emotional connection. In our sessions, we start with a thorough assessment of your relationship to identify strengths and areas of concern. We then work on key components such as: Building Love Maps: Understanding each other's inner world. Nurturing Fondness and Admiration & more

— Charles Walker, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Long Beach, CA

This method focuses on enhancing relationship skills and fostering emotional intimacy through effective communication strategies. It is grounded in years of observational research on what makes relationships successful or unhealthy. The Gottman Method includes techniques for managing conflict, building trust, and deepening friendship between partners. Overall, the Gottman Method equips couples with practical tools to improve their relationship and build a lasting, loving bond.

— Priscilliana (Priscilla) Torres-Mendoza, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Coral Gables, FL
 

I am being trained in the Gottman Method to assist couples in developing friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. I help couples transform negative ways they communicate with positive interactions to help heal past resentments. The Gottman Method includes, "interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed."

— Caitlin Miller, Counselor in Northbrook, IL

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA
 

I am trained in Gottman levels 1,2 and 3 of the Gottman method of couple's counseling. In addition, I've completed their training in affairs and trauma as well as their couples in recovery program. I am a seven principles of making a marriage work educator as well.

— kandee love, Sex Therapist in Oswego, IL

Couples Counseling is where both parties start the process of building a foundation of mutual respect and desire to intentionally hear one another. You don’t have to be in crisis in your relationship to desire to have the opportunity to work on communication around finances, shared responsibility, transition to parenting, intimacy, conflict- you name it, we’ve worked on it before in couples therapy.

— The Couch Therapy, Psychotherapist in Colleyville, TX
 

I am a Certified Gottman Therapist and Workshop Leader.

— My-Therapist, Inc., Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wake Forest, NC

Gottman Method provides research-based interventions tailored to unique needs of each couple. It focuses on building trust and intimacy while reducing conflict. Structured exercises help partners to deepen their understanding of each other's needs, creating a more resilient and satisfying relationships. Gottman Method includes building rituals of connection, enhancing fondness and admiration, and fostering shared goals while addressing destructive behaviors like criticism and contempt.

— Elvan Kama Kurtz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wayne, PA
 

I am Level I trained in the Gottman Method, and I also help run a couples workshop The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.

— Leah Webster, Licensed Professional Counselor in Wilmington, NC

The Gottman method helps couples who are struggling with managing conflict, communication, life goals and dreams, emotional and physical intimacy, trust and commitment in the relationship as well as other processes. It has been empirically studied as an effective modality in working with couples and is a tool based approach at helping couples go from surviving to thriving in their relationship.

— Zoe Spears, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

With six years of academic training in marriage and family therapy and specialized postgraduate education in the Gottman Method, I’ve developed a strong foundation in using this research-based approach to help couples improve their relationships. My training equips me to guide couples through effective communication strategies, conflict resolution, and rebuilding trust.

— Peter Rivera – Couples and Family Therapist in Seattle, WA., Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

The Gottman Method was developed by John and Julie Gottman and is the result of over 40 years of research into relationship success. Interventions are based on this research and designed to strengthen the areas of friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning.

— Sheila Kelly, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Torrance, CA
 

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, This is a free quiz to help get an idea of your relationship connection. Gottmanconnect.com/quiz-stage

— Amy Studer, Licensed Professional Counselor in , MO
 

The Gottman Method is a popular and evidence-based approach to couples counseling developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is grounded in extensive research on couples' interactions and aims to help couples improve their relationships, resolve conflicts, and build lasting connections.

— Alex Osias, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

I am level 2 trained and a leader in the 7 Principles of Making a Marriage Work Workshop.

— Kate St. Onge, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Burlington, CT
 

In my work with couples, the Gottman Method is central to my approach. I adapt their research, theory, and findings to work with LGBTQ+ and CNM couples.

— Sarah Malavenda, Psychotherapist in Chicago, IL