Attachment Theory

My approach is kind and thoughtful, but I am relentless in seeking to understand how a client's attachment patterns hold sway over their relational life. The words I use with clients are intentionally attuned to give voice to their deepest longings. When clients express these needs and experience validation is when the deep healing begins. Hidden push-pull forces of anxiety and disconnection give way to vulnerable requests and acceptance.

I use attachment theory to understand and support the dynamics of interpersonal relationships, particularly the influence of early attachment experiences on an individual's emotional and relational well-being. In doing so, I focus on exploration of early attachment experiences, building a secure therapeutic relationship, mindfully exploring current relationships and employing interventions aimed at improving attachment security.

Attachment-Based Therapy is a wonderful, life-changing approach to healing and psychological restoration. It helps adults and children build strong and meaningful relationships with their family members, friends, significant others, and communities. A lot of times, childhood trauma leads to unsatisfying relationships. This type of therapy allows clients to identify and heal from their trauma in order to live a fulfilling life.

Understanding one's attachment style alongside other attachment styles, generally known as anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles, helps illuminate great opportunities for interpersonal and personal growth in one's life. This is determined through assessment, bibliotherapy, insight into one's condition, and experiencing growth through the integration of one's Self within their efforts to connect and bond with others.

Attachment work is key to understanding how we operate within romantic relationships and intimacy. I am particularly passionate about helping those who may identify with Anxious Attachment and who see this impacting their relationships. I help clients better understand what attachment is, where our attachment wounds come from, and how to heal and find healthier ways to exist within relationships.

We’ll explore where you learned to protect yourself emotionally and how those early experiences shape current relationships. By understanding these protective strategies, we'll shift old patterns and create healthier, more secure connections. This process builds emotional resilience, deepens trust, and opens the door to richer, more fulfilling relationships. You’ll learn to navigate relationships with more clarity, safety, and confidence, leading to deeper and more meaningful bonds.

Attachment-based therapy specifically targets those thoughts, feelings, communications, behaviors, and interpersonal exchanges that clients have learned either to suppress and avoid or to amplify and overemphasize because of early attachment experiences. Attachment theory helps us examine early experiences with caregivers in order to better understand how strategies and patterns developed and heal from those early relationships so that we can build the relationships we want in our life now.

As an attachment therapist, I am well versed in the needs of babies and children and the ways these create trauma and future problems as adults. If our parents did not teach our brains how to regulate our emotions, we do not magically gain these skills later, and often experience trauma or anxiety as a result. In couples & parenting work I help couples/parents recognize and unlearn the attachment styles they learned as children showing up in their relationship to be effective partners & parents.

I like to think about attachment this way: our experience of the world is formed in childhood. If we were raised by caregivers who projected that everything is okay, that is the default way we tend to view life situations. If we were raised by caregivers who were in fear, rage, depression, then we tend to see the world as scary-unsafe-not okay. I love to work with clients to develop a secure sense of attachment, even if their beginnings were scary-unsafe-not okay.

Secure attachment begins when caregivers reliably meet their child’s emotional and physical needs—creating a “secure base” for exploration. In our parenting sessions, we’ll also explore your own upbringing to uncover patterns that shape your responses. You’ll learn to read and respond to your child’s cues with sensitivity, offer comfort in distress, set clear boundaries, and encourage curiosity. Together, we’ll strengthen your bond and raise confident, resilient children.

Attachment theory explains how early relationships with caregivers shape our emotional development and ability to form secure bonds as adults. Secure attachment, characterized by trust, safety, and emotional availability, fosters resilience, empathy, and healthy relationships, while insecure attachments can lead to difficulties with relationships and emotional regulation. By exploring attachment in a safe therapeutic space, clients can develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others.

Often in relationships, we are bringing our past into our present. Learn how to consciously build a healthy relationship from a place that is grounded in the present.

Attachment Theory focuses on how our adult selves were impacted by childhood and adolescent relationships and experiences. We all need emotional attunement, support, kindness, and challenge from our care givers and loved ones so that we can enjoy healthy and balance relationships with others and ourselves. Through an attachment lens, I encourage clients to reflect on the impact their upbringing had on who they are today, from their greatest strengths to their greatest struggles.

I use an attachment theory framework in my work and have experience working with anxious, avoidant and disorganized attachment styles in adults and children. Part of my goal as a therapist is to help people become more securely attached and increase relational security.

An attachment-based approach to therapy looks at the connection between a client's early attachment experiences with primary caregivers and the client's ability to form healthy emotional and physical relationships as an adult. Attachment-based therapy aims to build a trusting, supportive relationship between the client and counselor that will be used as a blueprint for other relationships and to alleviate mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression.

I have trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as well as studied other sources of attachment theory, and ways that this shows up in our individual patterns as well as relationship dynamics.

All of us have relational blueprints that we learned in childhood. Its these blueprints that are often responsible for sucking us back into repeating old patterns. This isn't necessarily a bad thing--although I know it can feel like it! Instead, this experience of stuckness and repetition can be a clue that there's something unresolved from the past that we need to work through.

Our attachment styles play a significant role in our relationships as we get older-- romantic relationships, friendships, our relationships with our jobs/careers, and so on. I think learning about how we form attachments and in turn what things we need and how those needs are met will help us understand how to navigate our interpersonal relationships.