Anna Khandrueva (she/her)

I am trained and experienced in working with couples who are a part of erotically marginalized kink communities like BDSM, ABDL, swinging, and others.

I am passionate about helping couples reconnect and communicate better. I am trained in Gottman Method (Level 2) and I am receiving additional post-graduate training at Denver Family institute.

I welcome consensually non-monogamous partners. Whether it's just one of you or the whole polycule, I can help you find a way to love each other better.

Anxiety can be treated with Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing therapy (EMDR), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and mindfulness. We will explore the reason behind the anxiety and process it as needed. We will also work on breathing, being present, and using the body to ground the anxious mind. The exact approach depends on your needs.

Bipolar can be treated with several therapies. Interpersonal Social Rhythm Therapy uses tracking, social interaction, and circadian rhythms to keep you stable. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be really effective for depression. Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing therapy (EMDR), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help resolve any trauma, such as hospitalizations and embarrassing memories. Mindfulness and education round out the treatment.

PTSD can be be based on simple or complex trauma. Simple trauma is one-off, like a car accident or an assault. Complex trauma results from continued, repeated exposure to traumatic events, such as childhood abuse or neglect. Both can be treated with Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing therapy (EMDR), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), and Internal Family Systems (IFS), but complex trauma takes longer and requires more preparation with mindfulness and safety building.

EFT is used in couples therapy, although it can also be applied to individuals. EFT focuses on exploring and meeting the attachment needs of both partners. Sessions usually involve each partner speaking to the therapist about their state, followed by the therapist instructing the partners to talk to one another about emotions and needs. EFT is effective for reducing conflict, improving communication, and increasing emotional connection.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. It uses eye movements to help you "digest" painful memories and replace negative beliefs, such as "I'm not safe" or "I'm worthless" with positive ones. EMDR involves being asked about the history of traumatic events, getting ready for processing with mindfulness, then proceeding to eye movements and belief installation. You will be guided by the therapist the whole time, finishing the session off with calming exercises.

IFS is a relatively new approach that's been found to be very effective for trauma. It involves "parts work" or finding and exploring parts of ourselves that can show up as feelings, emotions, thoughts, sensations, personality traits, and opinions. Working through these parts' protective qualities will take you to more vulnerable parts that carry the trauma. IFS uses a process called "unburdening" to help you heal those parts.